"Mother Throws Newborn"
I’m certain that this topic will spark a lot of controversy, but I feel compelled to write about it.I’m sure most of you have read about the mother who threw her newborn baby across the room, then snatched her up and subsequently broke her arm. If you haven’t heard the story, click here:
http://shreveporttimes.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070919/NEWS03/709190332/1002/NEWS
This is so tragic.
There is nothing that justifies what this mother did. However, I find myself trying not to be judgmental. It’s hard though.
I understand that being the mother of two small children is extremely stressful. I had a newborn with colic. Trust me, I know.
Maybe this mom just snapped. Maybe she had an anger problem. Who knows.
It says that the fiancée said she was a good person. That’s got to count for something.
What’s your opinion? Do you think that the mother snapped? Do you think that she was just an abusive mother?
UPDATE (9-19-07....5:03 p.m.): I just saw that the baby girl was pronounced dead a few minutes ago. Please keep the family in your prayers.
Do you think she should be charged with muder?
Also, I have decided that it may be a good idea for some local moms to form a support group for new mothers. To read more, click here:
http://forums.redrivermoms.com/viewtopic.php?p=2792
Read comments and leave yours HERE.
Labels: abuse, abusive, arm, broken, malnourished, mother, newborn, throws
posted by Melissa Swanson at 1:14 PM
Melissa is a student, a working mom, and the mother of 4 boys (ages 4, 7, 8, and 10). She is costantly fueled by the tenacity of her boys and their ability to make her laugh! What they say is true, "Laughter is the best medicine!"
18 Comments:
In my mind there is no way that this mother didn't show some abusive patterns before this happened. I mean it says that the other baby looked malnourished. Why is that? Could she have been abusing this child? This is crazy!
I'm sure that the police will look into the possible abuse of the other child. The story says that there was no physical evidence of abuse, other than malnutrition. X-rays should show if there were any old breaks, etc. It is possible that she just lost it.
I don't care what anyone says. A mother should never lose it so bad that she throws her child across the room. I too have been stressed out. I've even had those thoughts but I never followed through with them. What in the world was she thinking? Then to walk over and break her arm.
I know having 2 babies that close together can cause serious post partum depression and throw someone in to realms that none of us ever want to see. I'm not saying that as an excuse for her but.... Sadly - there should have been signs that showed she was stressed and a possible danger to herself or her kids. At 19 she's pretty much still a kids herself. I'm sure many stressed mothers have considered throwing a screaming baby (that will not stop)across the room but self restraint stopped that from happening (hopefully). It's a really really sad situation that never should have happened. All anyone can do now is make sure that the 11 month old is properly taken care of. And I think all she can do now is pray and ask God to forgive her for what she has done.
i too, have 2 babies close in age and have been on edge, but never would i ever harm my child! i know its tough, but that baby just wanted love and attention..it (the crying) stops eventually. there is no insanity here, i strongly beleive that people who do this should get the same treatment back...then maybe they will think twice abount doing it again, if it doesnt kill them!
The scary part is that I can see an insanity defense coming. Post partum psychosis can cause some horrible things. Remember Andrea Yates; the mother that drowned her 5 children in the bathtub? I wonder if she could have had this? I wonder if she did show any signs or was she all alone with no help?
I'am a mother of two kids my youngest had colic so I can see where the stress can come from. But their's no way you could flip like this all of the sudden without having bipolar are not taking medication. You would think the father knew, you dont get feeling like this in one day. I believe that moms and fathers are both to blame for things like this, that poor child if she lives will be without a life . The mother is very young and will have a very long time to deal with this. People are crazy these days they will do whatever than can to hurt other people even their own flesh and blood. I personal think that the father was not helping her and things just got out hands maybe she was on drugs but whatever the cause she will have to anwser to the lord ,she will have to serve life in prison and will never see her other child grow up . I'am just happy that got the other child before she hurt him . See I think the court should allow you to get the punishment that you caused she should be throwed across the room and then have her arm broke then put to death. Their are many people that cant have children but seems the ones that can seem to always hurt and negect them. It is a shame their is a place for thses people and she will be punished for the rest of life.
When I see and hear stuff like this it just makes me sick. That is the #1 reason why woman should be on medication after their is child born at least for the post partum depression. things like these could have been stoped before this ended the way it did. That poor child I wonder why no one was helping here during this time since she had a another child. I have sit back and thought and this is just hear breaking to hear. I belive that things like this can be prevented by knowing and seeing signs from the mother. For those of saying that you have thought about shaking your child due to crying come on people children are a gift from god. They were not given to us blame our outrages on get help first before this is you one day.
I suffered from post-partum depression after my 1st child was born. I remember times that I wanted to strangle everyone within my site. However, these were impulses that I knew I would never act on. When a woman has PPD, it has to be treated quickly! I went for 2 years without being diagnosed. It turned into major depression. Being 19 years old, I can't imagine going through it with two small babies. I'm definitely not saying it's a free pass for this mother. I'm just saying that I hope that if she did have it, it's brought to everyone's attention. Young mothers need to be more aware of this disease. Most mothers don't know until it's too late; either someone gets hurt or their marriage suffers. Anyone disagree?
I have to agree with you Melissa - it's not an out for her but it could at least be an explanation in an otherwise non-understandable (is that a word) situation. My aunt had PPD with her baby long before it was commonly known. She seriously considered killing her child and herself. My uncle knew something wasn't right and helped her get the help she needed. But I know it scared her so badly that she never had anymore children. Its sad to say people react differently to different situations. I agree that it sounds like Daddy wasn't much of a help if he knew she was stressed and didn't help. I hope they all get the help they most definately need.
Thank you Holly......
I don't know if any of you heard, but the baby was just pronounced dead a few minutes ago. Please keep the family in your prayers.
That was awful what she did to that lil girl. That's what babies do is cry she should have known that from the first child and she was under-feed. so there was a problem in the home and her finacee should have noticed if there was a problem with her. but for him to say she was fine i dont believe that. she knew that having two babies being that young would cause problems. she could have told her Dr. if she felt depressed or social worker somebody.
There's one word for this and that's evil. she should be punished and to break her arm also come on. throw the book at her for NOT notifying or calling someone to help her and her situation. stop blaming depression your mouth works and you can talk so she could have asked for help. life without parole. there's too many families that would properly care for a infant. It's just SAD
Thank the lord she went to heaven that poor baby would have not had a chance in life with the problems her mom gave her. I 've looked at the mom's pictures she shows no emotions what so ever and she looks to be on drugs are spaced out. People just need to get help before it is to late , I think personally she should get the death penalty and she should have to go through this just like anybody else. The yates case is one to look at she got away with by stating her menntal problems well this is example of letting one get away with so others can do the same. These woemen have got to be insane for doing this I dont care how mad are deppressed you get the children are always the ones to blame for this crap. I know for fact that Dr's will tell you about these problems all they had to do is ask for help. The dad should have seen some type of changes with her moods and emotions ,things like this is so awful to hear and now it is everyday day you hear of this stuff. Women stand up and take care of your childen are dont have to them if you cant take the heat of parenthood. Our children dont come with instrutions we as parents have to take the role as mom and dad not take the role as Child beaters are neglect our children. One thing the baby is all well and out of pain with the lord now . Now this the time the mom will live in fear and in Hell . The truly happy people are those who have a sourcce of happiness too deep to be seriously disturbed by ordinary troubles. Everything begins with prayer- spending a little time on our knees. Show me to walk, for my prayer is sincere. Psalm 143:8 Each dawn holds a new hope for a new path , making the start of each day the start of a new life Bless this child of god my my prayers be with them ,may he lift this family up during this time. AMEN
Some of your posts got me thinking....
I feel like I have to say this; although it's a repeat of some of the stuff you're already saying.
If you're thinking that having a baby is going to be fun and cute, think again.
Yes, babies are cute. Yes, there are fun times. However, being a mom is stressful most of the time; especially with a newborn. If you're reading this and thinking of having a baby, spend one day with a mom of a newborn and see the raw emotions that she goes through everyday.
I was well prepared when I had my first child and it was still very hard. I made it only b/c I had a good support system in place. My best friend was there when I needed her. There were a few times that I thought I was going to lose it. I would call her and she'd drop what she was doing on come get my son. If I wouldn't have had that, it could have been much harder.
You have to have a support system in place before you have a baby. If you don't have friends and family in the area, go to RedRiverMoms.com and meet some of the moms there. I'm thinking of starting a support group. Any suggestions or opinions on that?
Yes she should be tried for murder. That baby girl didnt have a chance to live and learn and love. She didn't get the love and teaching that she deserved. I feel no sorrow for her mother. God has a plan for her and my god bless her sole. Do you understand that there are moms who want kids and can't have them and this idot kill hers!! I say be done with her, close the cell door and never ever open IT...
I'm sure glad the anonymous poster above me wasn't the one God tried to get to help deliver me from my IDIOCY less than 10 years ago!
Yeah, she was wrong for what she did, but I pray there are people who will reach out to her with the love and compassion of God and not say "be done with her, close the cell door and never ever open IT...".
This is what many seem to think is the solution for most, if not all, of society's problems. I wonder how many of us would try to minister to this woman rather than ignore her? :-(
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