"Christmas Without Santa?"
Is everyone ready for Christmas?For the first time ever, I won't have my two boys for Christmas. I will, however, have my 2 step-sons.
It won't be the same b/c I don't think they believe in Santa Claus (truly). Will this be a Christmas without Santa?
I'm afraid that I'm going to wake up and start crying immediately.
FYI......my boys are going to be with their father for Christmas. I'm glad b/c he hasn't had them in a couple of years.
I had them in '05 and again in '06 b/c my husband was in Iraq. He felt sorry for me I guess. I got them two years in a row.
Have any of you had to deal with this before? How do you get past it?
posted by Melissa Swanson at 2:11 PM
Melissa is a student, a working mom, and the mother of 4 boys (ages 4, 7, 8, and 10). She is costantly fueled by the tenacity of her boys and their ability to make her laugh! What they say is true, "Laughter is the best medicine!"
6 Comments:
if i were you, i would just DO CHRISTMAS HOWEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!! & insist that these kids follow along- i doubt that they will balk too much- christmas is fun & happy & darn it, they will probably end up having a blast - do silly things like insist upon christmas stories (night before christmas even) and hanging stockings (even if all you end up putting in em is candy) & insist that santa exists- there is ALWAYS some doubt, but it can go either way- everyone doubts their belief in god(or whatever a person believes) @ some point or another, so it wont hurt to insist that you believe in santa & that he comes to your house every year regardless of if these kids do- besides you may end up winning them over-take em out for christmas light huntting- there are lots out there- found a bunch on gilbert & querbes last night (towards 70th)..am sure you guys can find some too!!! make hot chocolate, bake cookies...anything that gets em in the spirit- if you want good christmas, you can make it happen!!! its all a matter of mindset!!!!
Come on for crying out loud, kids are kids!
Trust me....I do realize that they're kids. I love them to death. I just have never had to deal with this at Christmas. Have you?
ya kinda have to go with the dr seuss way of higher thinking...
even if they dont believe in santa, wont he come regardless because he believes in them??
its sort of like when the grinch tried to steal & stop christmas & it CAME ALL THE SAME with or without the stuff that goes with it...and the who's in whoville still sang & were happy in spite of it all...
ya cant stop it from happening...it still comes regardless!!!!
We usually do the every-other-year rotation too with my step-sons. Now that they are older, we have sort of gotten out of that. It was so hard to get up on Christmas morning without them there but it was still Christmas and if you have other kids, you really need to help them enjoy it! Are you planning on doing Christmas a different day with your son? It is a lot harder being that your ex-husband lives out of town. The only way we used to get through it was to call them and talk for a little while and then think about next year, that they will be home with us! I know that sounds selfish but I hated being away from them and missing this special day with them but it is what it is and you just have to go on. Good luck, I know that will be tough. Divorce is never easy, especially when you have to always "share" time with your kids.
I personal feel that we as parents make more out of this than children. Each child and family deals with this on a daily bases. We forget about the true meaning of christmas tell your step children about the birth of baby jesus and if you beleive in santa they will follow you. It is very sad that your children dont beleive in santa due to hear say from other children but if you simple go on with it ,you and your family will be blessed from it in the long run. We do santa letters from santa to help our childen see more things from him and we try to do more family time. Enjoy the children they will grow up very fast. Maybe relate to you childhood with santa let them know you still beleive in him I sure do and I always will.I hope your family has a blessed Christmas time together.
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