“The Child That Leaves”
I want to thank all of my readers. I just started writing this blog this month. I have found it to be lots of fun though. I really enjoy having people respond, whether it’s positive or not, and tell me their opinions. After all, that’s what a blog is for.
I have assumed the role of the controversial mom, I think. To me, parenting is all about the ups and downs.
I feel that it’s important to share my experiences in hopes that it may help someone else out there that is going through the same thing.
On that note, I digress…….
I am absolutely devastated by some recent events. My 7 year old and 4 year old sons went and stayed with their father this summer, in Texas. About 1 week ago, the 4 year old came back. He just couldn’t be away from his mommy any more.
The 7 year old hasn’t come back. The problem is he may not. He has decided that he wants to live with his daddy now. This has absolutely broken my heart. I fought and fought with my ex-husband to let him continue to live with me, but he just wasn’t going for it. He really wants him there.
I completely understand how he feels. I have no worries that my baby will be taken care of there. He’s a great father! I’m lucky to at least have that. But, I just cannot get past the fact that he’s going to be split up from his little brother. I know that it will devastate the 4 year old.
Personally, I don’t think my 7 year old is old enough to make such a complicated decision. I feel like the parents are the ones that should make decisions like that. I feel like it’s my job to just tell him how it’s going to be and make him understand we have his best interest at heart.
The thing is I have his father to worry about as well. I do want him to be happy. Being apart from his children has been a constant struggle for him. I have no hostilities against my ex. So, I feel that I need to try to be more understanding.
I just don’t think that I’m being unreasonable to not want to split them up. What do you think?
Check out the comments and share yours by clicking HERE.
I have assumed the role of the controversial mom, I think. To me, parenting is all about the ups and downs.
I feel that it’s important to share my experiences in hopes that it may help someone else out there that is going through the same thing.
On that note, I digress…….
I am absolutely devastated by some recent events. My 7 year old and 4 year old sons went and stayed with their father this summer, in Texas. About 1 week ago, the 4 year old came back. He just couldn’t be away from his mommy any more.
The 7 year old hasn’t come back. The problem is he may not. He has decided that he wants to live with his daddy now. This has absolutely broken my heart. I fought and fought with my ex-husband to let him continue to live with me, but he just wasn’t going for it. He really wants him there.
I completely understand how he feels. I have no worries that my baby will be taken care of there. He’s a great father! I’m lucky to at least have that. But, I just cannot get past the fact that he’s going to be split up from his little brother. I know that it will devastate the 4 year old.
Personally, I don’t think my 7 year old is old enough to make such a complicated decision. I feel like the parents are the ones that should make decisions like that. I feel like it’s my job to just tell him how it’s going to be and make him understand we have his best interest at heart.
The thing is I have his father to worry about as well. I do want him to be happy. Being apart from his children has been a constant struggle for him. I have no hostilities against my ex. So, I feel that I need to try to be more understanding.
I just don’t think that I’m being unreasonable to not want to split them up. What do you think?
Check out the comments and share yours by clicking HERE.
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posted by Melissa Swanson at 9:30 AM
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Melissa is a student, a working mom, and the mother of 4 boys (ages 4, 7, 8, and 10). She is costantly fueled by the tenacity of her boys and their ability to make her laugh! What they say is true, "Laughter is the best medicine!"
